I used to be in a band with some so-called friends, but since recently, I’ve pretty much been chucked. We were splitting anyway because one of the members decided he was randomly going to join another band, but as soon as he left, they turned to me and said “Well, there’s no use for you anymore either.”. I can’t actually understand what I’ve done wrong, but I realise now it was a big mistake to even try and join the band.
You see, I was friends with the lead guitarist ever since nursery and we were best friends at one point before we left for school. There was another guitarist who I used to be friends with at nursery and the band brought us back together after 10 years of not seeing each other. And then the other 2 were my two old friend’s friends, if that makes sense. I didn’t know them until I joined, but I thought they’d give me a chance. And to their credit, they did. Ish.
Anyway, it’s been about a month and a half since I joined. I was band manager and lyrics writer. I found out that their band name was taken, but made arrangements with the band already with the name to pass it on to us and they kindly agreed. After that happened, I thought I’d be kind of accepted by the other band members as they called me
I guess my intrusion, as that’s what I feel they deemed it to be, stepped on their ego. Which is a harsh comment, yes, but I really think that they should get some manners. I can’t tell you exactly what the drummer said, but he’s not a nice guy at all. And the others, which shocked me the most, backed him up and added on to his comments. I was sort of hurt that I had been so nice to them and they could be so rude back, but there is nothing much I can do, really.
Now the only member left is my
C’est la vie.
That’s really messed up that they would do that. What was your band called? If I were you, I would start my own without them and such. I dunno, just a suggestion I guess.
The Demented Year Awards? How would I enter? And thank you!
Ish, I’m sorry about your hockey game. I would be so down on myself…Are you still in hockey?
I had always thought I could write lyrics for a band, but I don’t think I’d actually be able to. I come up with lyrics, but music would be hard to put to them…
Clearly, that band is going to fail. If they can’t even try to be polite to their band manager, then they’re screwed. Rudeness is one of the biggest problems I see in society today, and it’s a shame when it happens in a situation like yours. -gives a hug- If they’re like that to you, you don’t need them!
Unfortunately, I have no idea what else to say, since I’ve never been part of a band before, and I don’t really have any desire to be. D: Things will turn for the better, Soph!
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I hate just hearing myself talk, so I’ll probably have to put earplugs in. xD Or, I could grow up and stop caring that I’ll sound weird. The vlog I’ve planned out isn’t much of me talking, and I won’t be able to have that one as the first. I have a bit of a plan for one I could start off with, though. I’m normally a rambler if I don’t have an idea that’s long enough. If it’s too short, then I’ll definitely be rambling. D:
I was just busy helping to renovate and hadn’t returned your comment. 😛
My little brother and my older brother (yes, I have three brothers) are the ones I can’t say it to. I may be able to say it to my little brother, but he can get quite irritating. He treats me like his mom, and it’s actually starting to creep me out. My older brother is a jackass, so I can’t really like him at all. I can’t say it to my parents, either.
Jeez, that’s terribly rude. I think you’re much better off without them. They obviously didn’t appreciate all you’ve done, which makes things worse.
I hope your friend talks to you about it. I’m surprised he hasn’t gotten back to you sooner. 🙁
That is so mean of them. :/ If they’re going to act like that and be mean to someone that’s been so nice them, then I wouldn’t want to be friends or be near them in the first place. Hopefully your old friend comes around, though if a band is more important than an old friend… well then maybe you don’t need him either. 😡 But anyways I hope all gets better 🙂
That’s a really insensitive thing to say, if people in your band treat you that way then you’re pretty much better without them.
C’est la vie – I do love that quote xD It’s actually in my Twitter description box :’)
If I was you I would talk to them about it and tell them that as your friends that’s a rude thing to do, especially after what you did for the band. If it doesn’t get resolved, then just leave – who needs them?